The In-Between: Caring for Your Mental Health Between the Holidays and the New Year
The space between the holidays and the New Year can feel strangely quiet. The decorations come down, the gatherings end, and the momentum that carried us through December suddenly disappears. This in-between time doesn’t always feel peaceful; it can feel empty, heavy, or unsettling.
Many people describe it as a fog. The holidays are over, but the New Year hasn’t fully arrived. Expectations linger, routines feel off, and emotions that were held at bay finally surface. If this time of year feels harder than expected, you’re not alone—and there’s nothing wrong with you.
Why the “In-Between” Feels So Hard
The holiday season often keeps us busy and externally focused. There are events to attend, traditions to uphold, and people to support. Once that structure disappears, we’re left with stillness—and stillness can bring up emotions we didn’t have space to feel before.
This time can stir:
Emotional exhaustion after weeks of socializing or stress
Grief or loneliness once the distractions fade
Anxiety about the upcoming year
A sense of letdown after months of anticipation
Our nervous systems don’t instantly reset just because the calendar changes. After prolonged stress or stimulation, it’s normal to feel flat, tired, or emotionally sensitive.
The Pressure to “Reset” Too Quickly
There’s also an unspoken pressure during this time to immediately shift into goal-setting mode. New Year’s resolutions, productivity plans, and “fresh start” messaging can make it feel like you’re already behind if you’re not energized or motivated.
But healing and mental health don’t run on January 1st deadlines.
The in-between isn’t a failure to move forward; it’s a pause. And pauses are often where integration happens. This is where your body and mind catch up to everything you’ve been carrying.
How to Care for Your Mental Health During the In-Between
You don’t need a complete transformation during this time. Small, grounding practices can help you feel more stable and supported.
Allow yourself to rest without justification.
You don’t need to earn rest by being productive. Fatigue after the holidays is a genuine phenomenon, affecting both the emotional and physical aspects of one's life.
Re-establish gentle routines.
Structure doesn’t have to be rigid. Simple anchors like consistent sleep, meals, or short walks can bring your nervous system a sense of safety.
Limit emotional overconsumption.
Social media, news cycles, and comparison-heavy content can amplify anxiety during this time. Taking breaks can be protective, not avoidant.
Name what you’re feeling.
Sometimes the discomfort comes from not having language for it. Saying “I feel off” or “I feel tender” is enough to start making sense of it.
Reflection Without Pressure
Instead of asking, “What should I change about myself next year?" Try gentler questions:
What felt heavy this year?
What helped me get through difficult moments?
What do I need more of right now—not next year?
Reflection doesn’t have to lead to immediate action. Awareness alone is meaningful.
When the In-Between Feels Overwhelming
For some, this time brings more than restlessness. Depression, anxiety, grief, or unresolved stress can intensify once the distractions fade. If you notice:
Persistent low mood
Loss of interest or motivation
Increased anxiety or panic
Difficulty functioning day-to-day
It may be time to reach out for support.
Therapy offers a space to process the year you’ve lived, not just plan the year ahead. You don’t have to wait until things feel “bad enough” or until January feels official.
Moving Forward—Gently
The in-between is not a gap to rush through. It’s a bridge. A place where you’re allowed to exhale, recalibrate, and take stock without pressure to perform.
You don’t need to reinvent yourself right now. You just need care, compassion, and support—especially from yourself.
If this season feels heavier than expected, help is available. At Central Counseling Services, we’re here to support you through transitions, uncertainty, and everything that lives in between.
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You don’t have to carry this alone.
